When you live close to your significant other, or work with them, go to school with them, etc., your relationship may seem close to perfect. You get to be around the one person who makes you the happiest...for the time being. I mean, this is great and all, really, but what happens when their job takes them elsewhere? When they decide to go to a school that could be hours away? You obviously don't want to discourage your partner from chasing their dreams or stop them from doing what's in their best interest. However, this doesn't mean you want them to leave. This person could be your best friend, your lover, and anything/everything in between. You just don't see breaking up in your cards. So, you go to school, or pursue that great job that you can't believe is yours, tell your partner you'll see them soon, then leave.
The relationship doesn't get tricky just yet. You make it a point to call each other every morning and every night. You FaceTime as often as possible and try not to miss a beat in each others' lives. This is a really good quote for someone who is hopeful about their relationship:
As time wanes on though, turmoil strikes. You grow tired of missing each other. The distance and paranoia gets under your skin. You often wonder, "what is he/she doing right now? If they were with someone else, I would never know." This thought is probably the worst of all, the thing that really eats away at you; it has the ability to drive you completely mad. Regardless of how much you trust that person, you can't help but worry just a little bit. You two fight more and more and your struggling to maintain a healthy relationship and not completely fall apart. Because chances are, you're not only juggling your social problems, but also your professional/educational ones. Yes, I do know how it feels because I've been there. And it sucks. Even more so because the fights are over the phone or on FaceTime, not even in person, which makes the situation even harder to deal with.
My advice? If you truly love that person and want it to work, make it work. No one is in control of your life but you. The fighting gets hard, but push through if it's what you really want. Talk to that person about how you feel, and tell them all the things you appreciate they do. If they reciprocate, it's a surprisingly good tactic. And lastly, no matter what, always tell them "I love you." If you're having an argument via phone, tell them you love them anyways at the end. Just to let them know you and your feelings are still there. Good luck-
QueenB
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